What Is So Important about a Budget in a Divorce?

One of your most essential tasks in a divorce mediation or a Collaborative divorce is to prepare a summary of your expenses, which we will call your budget.  A budget by its very nature is only an estimate, or projection, of future income and expenses.  Past...

Gray Divorce – “Why Did You Leave Grandpa?”

The Melinda and Bill Gates’ divorce is currently making headlines, with some speculation as to “why,” but mostly because of the complexity of the division of their enormous wealth within their foundations. Our attention as divorce professionals however is...

Can We Still Be Friends (after Divorce)?

from Song by Todd Rundgren, 1978 If you’ve had enough birthdays, you may remember this 70’s song by Todd Rundgren. He poses a question that comes up at the end of relationships. Maybe, if we can still be friends, it will soften the blow, lessen the pain. A more...

Making Sense of Those Divorce Legal Forms

The Petition Opens a file: Filing a petition for dissolution of marriage (divorce) simply opens a file at the courthouse and gives you a file number to use in the future.  Nothing else will ever happen if no one files anything further.  In fact, the court is obligated...

How to Stop Fighting in Front of Your Kids

(Beyond Buttoning Your Lips!) Hold a “Commitment Ceremony” Before you can implement any of the following ideas, you need to have a commitment from your ex (or soon to be ex) that you will both do everything possible to stop fighting in front of the kids. Write it down...